Four lessons learned in 2018
2018 was going pretty well then around September time, everything came at once. Unexpected deaths, a change in living situations, estate agent troubles and a broken calcaneus resulting in surgery and months off work for the husband. With all of this in mind is it any wonder I’m R-E-A-D-Y for 2019? I don’t usually go in for the whole ‘new year, fresh start’ bollocks but this year I am fully on board.
It’s true what they say, you really don’t know when it’s all gunna end so grab life by the balls as hard as you can.
Husband’s family has had a tough year with not one but two deaths – One was totally unexpected and out of the blue and the other one was a cancer diagnosis followed by a fast decline in health. It just goes to show that you really don’t know when it’s going to end and as cheesy as it is, you should live life to the fullest, love with everything you have and be in the present as much as possible. I’m guilty of sometimes drowning in nostalgia for my past travels or thinking too much about the future – So much so that I forget about the now. I’m still working on it but I’m learning to be much more appreciative of what I have right now as opposed to what I used to have or could potentially have.
Look after your mind, body and soul to the best of your ability.
With everything that’s gone on this year I’ve got everything crossed that the upcoming new year is a much more positive one (especially for husband and his family). Over the last couple of months I’ve been reminded of how important it is to look after your physical and mental health, even in times of stress as I believe that if you don’t look after you, it impacts everything else – Relationships, work, even your bloody immune system. I’ve recently started going back to the gym and on top of that I’m doing aerial hoop classes, something I’ve always been keen to try. Exercise doesn’t work as a tonic for everyone but when I have a regular routine I feel so much better within both my body and my brain. I hate it, don’t get me wrong, but it’s good for me on so many levels. I also get my nails painted twice a month – It adds up but it makes me feel so much more pulled together – It’s the little things!
Sometimes the stars align and you are where you need to be, at that exact moment in time.
When we found cracks in the walls of our little rented house in June we were devastated – Husband and I eventually moved out in September and ended up moving back in with our parents. Living between the two houses wasn’t easy but when Jody broke his heel a month later it felt like fate. With him not working we would have been stretched financially trying to make rent and he needed a lot of looking after in the beginning as he couldn’t move his leg at all (and his parents work part time so could keep an eye on him). Moving back in with our parents wasn’t ideal but as Jody put it ‘we are both in the right place for ourselves right now but have the same end goal of buying a house’.
It’s okay to feel a little green-eyed – Use it as motivation to spur you on
My friend recently bought a flat on her own and although I was over the moon for her, I’ve got to admit I was also totally jealous. Instead of being bitter about it I’m using it as my motivation – If she can buy a flat on her own, what’s stopping Jody and I buying one as a couple? It’s led to me confronting my spending habits and in the New Year I plan on starting the process by getting some further information from a mortgage advisor. No excuses this time.